by, Alice Grist Tarot author, creator and teacher.
Spiritual readings should be sacred time. Time where you are able to reflect on your current circumstances, and from this place, see a powerful and potent way forward.
Readings, if they do anything, dare you to get bigger, and be more YOU! Following the popularity of my first blog post on this subject, here is some more information for those of you trying to recover from a damaging 'spiritual reading'.
Sadly this isn't always the case, and some readers drop painful words like stones our way, often without any kind of solution focused assistance. They present prediction like fact and in turn this creates confusion concerning free will and a feeling of disconnection with our inner compass and intuition.
A power imbalance is created when someone claims to know your truth and invests that truth with 'guru' like all-seeing and all-knowing.
This can leave you feeling sick, stressed and full of shame. You may feel like you need to live up to the expectation your 'reader' has dumped on you, and guilt when that doesn't not align with what you really want to do. This kind of reading is sadly fairly common and as this arena of work is unregulated any person can claim an ability, give you a terrible reading, and then leave you feeling lost and torn.
Let me affirm this with you. You know your truth and a decent, caring, solution focused reading will reflect this and hand you back your crown. Any reading that leaves you feeling low, or full of shame, is not, I repeat not, something to hang your heart on.
A recent client I had, who connected with me through my previous blog about BAD READINGS, has made me think even more deeply about this...
When you have suffered from a bad reading with a psychic or tarot reader, not only might you feel afraid for your future, or concerned about the state of your relationships / work etc, but, it's also very common to feel a sense of guilt and shame.
This arises because you feel you have been given a prescription about your life that firstly, is judgemental, negative and it makes you feel as if you have somehow messed up. A bad reading casts doubt on all your decision making, all the things you chose to do in your life suddenly feel scrutinised and dirty. It is perfectly reasonable that a bad reading would send you spiralling into a dark night of the soul. I have seen this with clients many times, and I promise you, it need not be this way.
I firmly believe that everything you did, was what brought you to the moment. There is no 'good' or 'bad', generally, most of my clients are a composite of hope, joy, innocence and doing the best they can with their current understandings and skills. Wherever you life currently takes you, what matters is that you focus on you and keep striving towards your hopes. Nothing you did in the past, or that lead to this moment, deserves the cruel eyes of a judgemental or bossy reader upon them.
You know you, and you know what you are capable of believe it.
The other area of guilt may arise when a reader tells you what to do based on some 'spiritual' insight. Who is to say what this person's life experience or worldview is... Very likely if it feels at odds to your own, then trying to turn yourself inside out to abide by what they say is going to be awkward and have you questioning everything you know and feel. If this is the case, remember this, we are all spiritual, we all have intuition and inner knowing. If somebody has told you what to do, and it does not feel good, reference your own inner knowing and abide by your heart.
Readings allow for transformation, but that change is natural, innate and inevitable. Life pushes you towards change every single day. A bad psychic reading will have you feeling like you have to turn mental and emotional gymnastics to make life fit. If you find yourself trying to accomplish a goal set by a 'reader' ask yourself if this feels right, if it feels natural. or if, perhaps, you know differently. Because honest you do, that is why you are hear reading this...
You know yourself best. Always have and always will. No 'psychic or spiritual' reader has the right to admonish you for past choices nor do they know what is best for you for the future. A decent reading will have you reflecting and digging at your truth, and from here empowering you to jump into the choices and decisions that feel like magic and power.
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-You feel forced to make a choice or a decision about your life.
-You are told something that doesn't accord with your own intuition.
-You are encouraged to end something job / relationship / friendship.
- You are not given hope.
- The reader asks a lot of questions and shifts their reading accordingly.
- The reading does not reflect your current reality, or you have to find 'crumbs' within what they say to make it fit.
- The reading states what other people in your life are doing / thinking.
- The reading feels like a dead end and you have no power left to change anything.
- The reader explains their work and capabilities and stresses the importance of your own power, intuition and free will.
- The reading reflects accurately your current circumstances and feelings.
- The reading suggests possible courses of action, based upon current ideas and opportunities.
- The reading is solution and hope focused.
- You begin to understand the patterns and cycles of life and make some sense out of the darker situations that have happened.
- Healing and growth focused with a recognition that these things take time.
- The reading focuses on you (and not the actions or behaviours of other people).
- You come away prepared and enabled to enact meaningful change.
- The reading suggests other support mechanisms such as doctor / therapist / support group and does not overstep their boundaries.
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