 Here is your magical reading super charged by the summer solstice. The cards are absolutely not messing about. Can you feel it?
Theme All three cards are infused with the energy of wake up call and transition. We came this far so we can recognise our possibility. We came this far so we can see further and better. It wasn't easy. It wasn't supposed to be. Now for the tarot (cards by me - Cosmic Mother Tarot) 1 Princess of cups. Transition waits on the other side of grace, appreciation and celebration. Find reasons to be stupendously grateful. This will serve you. 2. Sorceress of Pentacles. Change will burn and take you in ways you never expected. It will call on your wilderness and your spirit. Birth the fuck out of your life. You must. Give over to this. 3. Seven of Swords. Keep your heart focused on what you really want and make those steady sneaky moves. It is not something to feel guilty about. This is survival. Have your own back babe. You know you need this. If you loved this reading follow me on instagram/alicegrist, purchase a reading with me or grab a copy of my tarot book, Dirty & Divine!
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 How has your year been darling? I ask with utter sincerity and an expectation that you have struggled more than you have laughed. 2018, so far, has been hard work. So many crises and chaos, on the world stage, overly so in the life of individuals, those two things mingling and becoming one and the same. That which hurts one of us, hurts us all. Isn't that a message we are taking from a year of terrible dramas? That if one of us cries, we all can (should we choose to). If one of us falters, we all can. If one of us grows.... And so on. Connection, commitment, community, oneness... How have those things touched your life so far this year? Here, mid year, midsummer, beautiful Solstice, we can take the opportunity to reflect on what we have been brought so far. As we do, we can set an intent to vibe onwards and upwards. Let me be an example. This year started with my husband having a heart attack the week after his 39th Birthday. Everything, everything, everything has become beholden to that and to what it meant for him and us. His recovery has occurred on every level, mental, spiritual, physical, emotional. And it's not over yet... Recovery, I suspect, never is... And yet the mood has turned, the labour of emotion is slowly bearing fruits. Not the fruits I expected. It's like I planted strawberries and got apples. Perfect, and yet, so different, so utterly unmatched to my recipe. But maybe my recipe can shift... What are your fruits? What toil have you put into your life this year, that you didn't plan for, and how is it making you wiser and wilder? How do you hope to take this forward? Now is the time to reset goals, ambitions and hopes. Today is a good day to pray. This evening is a potent time to cast a spell, make a wish, create a vision board, or simply make an agreement with yourself. The year need not go out, as it came in. Take what this first half has taught you, hold it close, thank it, and move towards something, anything new, for that is what will come my dear, as ever. Love, Alice About Alice Book a personal reading or spiritual session with me... Sign up to my online Tarot Course... Read more from cosmic Mother Alice Grist All
Enlightenment is a huge concept that has many of us reaching for the impossible. I believe that enlightenment comes to us all in little powerful doses, you don't need to be some kind of Spiritual Master either... Find out whether you have been 'enlightened' and / or experienced 'enlightenment' with this easy and spiritually accessible Vlog. i will teach you how to recognise enlightenment in your life and how you can be open to it's small, intriguing ways.
Watch the video and let it trigger your experiences with Enlightenment. Please feel free to share in the comments below!
What does the week ahead hold for you? You guys have always loved my live videos and tarot guidance. So I created a weekly new Vlog for you, posted here and on You Tube. Giving you the heads up of spiritual, emotional and life themes that you will encounter each week!
This totally free feature gives you an indepth intuitive, tarot and spiritual reading, with a side dose of free range spiritual teaching every Monday. Each week this might include any manner of tools for you to make the most of your week. I divine it as I go along, sometimes inserting meditation, oracle cards and guidance from a cosmic higher power - (call it what you want). I deal with each day for the week ahead, alongside the theme that presents itself. I utilise the same spiritual experience and humour that I was taught as a child and that I have carried forward into my books, my art, and my everyday life. Each week's session is completely empowering and individual. This also stands alone as spiritual teaching. So it really doesn't matter if you come to this many months after it was initially posted. If you are watching, it holds something for you... Please watch and share. ​Let me know how this speaks to you and what is stirs in your heart and soul in the comments below! Work personally with me...High Priestess Guidance Reading - PDF by Email
£75.00
A no nonsense tarot reading for a very modern spiritual client. My guidance reading will hook you back into your own intuition and glide you back onto your purpose. Looking at several areas of your life, and employing radical intuitive guidance, I offer hope, healing and above all, a massive dose of empowerment!
"Love you Alice Grist! I read my tarot reading again yesterday - lady, you're amazing, thank you!" Lisa Lister, Author, Witch, Love Your Lady Landscape, She Flow Yoga Teacher www.thesassyshe.com June 2015 What you get... Intuitive Reading - guidance grasped from spirit and your higher self. That which you know deep down, but have not yet acknowledged within. Your Power Animal - a totem to guide you at this time. Wisdom from that animal that is channelled just for you as an individual. Healing - guidance dedicated to healing whatever is in need of resolution. Freedom - how to attain it, how to release the old, guidance on what is keeping you stuck. The Heart of the Matter. An intimate consideration of the heart of your situation, and what you should be aware of now. Past - what is the past asking you to learn at this current moment? The past is of course a complex and multilayered thing. In many ways it is still living. This section helps you pull at useful strands, lay things to rest and make the most of your history! Present - what needs addressing, seizing and understanding at this current time. This section will help pinpoint your current power and your current pain. Helping you to shift towards a more helpful and enlightening understanding of your present circumstances. Future - a review of where you are headed and how you can make the very best of it. This is not fortune telling, but rather, fierce and loving sign posting. It offers inspiration and guidance on the path your highests self wishes you to tread. Indepth intuition on the following individual areas; Love, Career, Family / Friends, Health Final Guidance - Dirty and Divine. A powerful look at what your Dirty and Divine parts of your self and your life need you to know. A fabulous cross section of self. Where your human meets your spirit, they marry up and they find an awesome way forward. Plus you can ask up to three specific questions that I will address via intuition and the cards. If you require something slightly different, or wish to fully address one aspect of your life. Each reading is hand pulled and written by me, just for you, and sent by email within 5 days of order. Please provide a valid email address in the note to seller, if not I will presume the address attached to the payment is correct. Check out my many happy client reviews here... ​I have been reading for personal guidance since I was a teen (25 years) and professionally for ten years. I produce daily readings for a growing number of fans, and my new book, Dirty & Divine, a sacred journey through tarot, showcases my expertise and understanding. You can harness this intuitive knowing, and connect to your own higher self, by purchasing your very own guidance reading today! "Alice has been my go-to woman for tarot readings for years now, because her truth, knowledge + wisdom is the REAL DEAL." Lisa Lister, The Sassy She, Love Your Lady Landscape "You're amazing. Thankyou this is such a comfort. I do have to owe most of my changing to you. You have been my inspiration and so you have basically changed my life. I'll never forget." Lauren Oct 2016 "Thankyou so much for my reading, it is so accurate and some of the things I was literally just thinking about today" Sue Oct 2016 "OH MY GOODNESS... gave me chills. So spot on!!! The boost I needed to keep going." Rhiannon Oct 2016 "Amazing and Accurate" Louise July 2016 "Thank you for another amazing reading, it did not disappoint. I can't thank you enough. Happily highly recommend you on Instagram. Your readings mean so much to me and are a great source of strength". Jessica July 2016 Cosmic Mother Life Purpose Reading - PDF Report by Email
£110.00
An empowering and spirit evoking report based reading. Perfect for those who wish to receive a full assessment of their life that they can read and revisit over time, and for those who cannot commit to an in person or Skype reading. ​Using the deck I painted myself (The Cosmic Mother Deck), and intuitively received musings, I weave the mystical divine feminine into your life. But what does that really mean? It means that this reading empowers and enlightens you on your heart, soul, mind and purpose! Consider it a very detailed map of where you have been and where you are going... The reading brings you purpose and path, starting with your birth and moving through the phases of your life, culminating at the reason of your life as seen from it's ending. Beautifully written, and never shying from truth, this reading is a blueprint for your soul. This is an extensive and enlightening reading that is hand pulled and painstakingly written individually for you by me, using my 25 years of Spiritual experience, tarot expertise and my usual dirty & divine writing style as exampled in my five books! Except this one, is just for you!!! This is straight from spirit, through me, to you... So much more than just tarot, this reading connects spiritually and shamanically to your highest self, your guides, your ancestors and your guiding totem animals. My full goddess reading brings you the intuition and self understanding you sorely need to coach you onwards, in your full Goddess power. This is spiritually truly enlightening insight on your purpose, path and the meaning of your current life. ​ Each reading is hand pulled and written by me, just for you, and sent by email within 7 days of order. Please provide a valid email address in the note to seller, if not I will presume the address attached to the payment is correct. Areas this detailed reading delves into... What did your life mean at the very moment of your birth? What were you placed here to bring and achieve. What is your personal highest power. What talents you have brought to be shared? This may surprise and enlighten you. The talents of a Goddess are deeply unique. Learn just how talented you are! You on a bad day – an insight into your darker side. Use this to navigate your moods, your lows and your dark cloud days. - You on a good day - embrace the best of you. Use it to power forward and to understand the ability you have to accept happiness. - Your Karma- What karmic lessons this life has brought or intends for you. These things arise in our lives as patterns, habits and things that need to be overcome. It may be karma built in this life or in lives past, it may even be the karma of your ancestors. Whatever it is, it is here for you to live and embrace. Notes from your ancestors on how and why and what you are doing with their legacy! Your route to a happier life. Peaceful and restortaive guidance that shows you how you can up your dose of happy. Maiden: Your early years - what your younger years brought to your life and what can be harnessed. Goddess: Your middle years - who you are becoming, who you are, what life is teaching you. Crone: Your later years - what the latter part of your life will bring to the world, and to you. Love: What lessons does your love life harbours for you in this lifetime. - Career: What you can set to learn from your career and work in this lifetime - What is your purpose? And how can you get on your path! Health: Considers any health issues or challenges this lifetime may bring. Family and Friends: Lessons from our nearest and dearest and how to best handle those in your life. Archetypes - three powerful archetypes for you to be inspired by and that will lead you forward. What your life will mean to the world on the day you return to spirit. Who have you been? How will you be remembered. What aspects of you will echo through to the future... Your current situation in terms of ego and intuition. A spiritual assessment of your inner state, guidance to embrace for your highest benefit at this very moment in time. This aids you in moving towards a higher state of inner grace. Grasping this moment to see your current truth. Freedom (Now) How to access and achieve the most freedom in your current situation. ​Healing. Powerful, loving guidance on healing and amending all that causes you pain. Animal Totem Guidance - love and wisdom from you power animal of the moment! Happy Clients say... "As always, this was a huge comfort to me. Everything rang true. Reading your words always lifts me to a better place." Jessica P June 2015 "Wow, thanks Alice, that's a killer reading, really needed that… " Jerry Hyde, Therapist and Author of Play From Your Fucking Heart Dirty and Divine Prescription Reading - available worldwide by Email (PDF)
£45.00
Do you wish for guidance through difficult, awkward, chaotic and exciting times! Are you stumbling through life looking for guidance, tripping over doubt and wishing to find your path? A prescription reading from me is an affordable dose of beautifully written spiritual wisdom and guidance, just for you, gleaned from my 25 years experience of spiritual study and reading the tarot. I focus intently on what you are doing, and what you should be doing, to get where you need to be! This reading will help you get back on the life path and purpose that is calling to you. Plus it can be crafted to any particular area of your choice such as, love, health, family, career, a particular question etc... This year my tarot work has featured on Spirit Guides Radio, Kindred Spirit Magazine, Soul and Spirit Magazine, New Age Hipster (unboxing), Ethony (unboxing) Each reading is unique to you & deeply spiritual. What You get... An empowering reading that engages and expands upon the following spiritual help... Animal Spirit - brings forth wisdom to help nurture your karmic ties and powers into fruition. Employ this animal spirit in your every day life to really power up your way forward. Dirty Card and Divine Card - Two cards hand pulled to really enlighten your current situation. what are you seeing? What are you not seeing? How can you make the most of it? Enlightening guidance, just for you!n Dirty & Divine Solution - The tarot will be consulted on how best to employ your Dirty & Divine (human and spirit) and to overcome any blips, follow your path and take advantage of the moment for your highest purpose. Focuses on what you need to know right now and advises you into the future. Fascinating insight from your highest self! Final overview and guidance... A wildcard that allows information to be finalised and summarised in a way that brings it all together. Allowing for further wisdom to come forward and letting the cards take a powerful lead! What happens when I order? I receive your order and you need not contact me separately. Although if you have any questions about tailoring your reading, please do put that in your 'note to seller' section of the order form. Each reading is hand pulled and written by me, just for you, and sent by email within 7 days of order. Please provide a valid email address in the note to seller, if not I will presume the email address attached to the payment is correct. If you do not receive within seven days, please check all your accounts and junk mail, then contact me. Recent Reviews... "I can't begin to tell you how pertinent this is to my life right now. I've been playing/practising with my cards for a while but I've haven't had a reading by anyone else until now and I'm actually a little shaky, on reading it! Unbelievably spot on, and so much to think about." L Feb 2017 Thank you, from the bottom of my heart. I can't wait to receive my copy of your book now! "I shall take your medicine now and everyday. Thank you so much for sharing your insight. It was a true gift to me". Feb 2017 More about me... Acclaimed Spiritual Author and Artist 25 Years Practice and study of Tarot, Meditation and Healing Certificate in Hypnotherapy, NLP and Shamanic Practice - Talking Cures Leicestershire. Reiki Master Seichem Reiki Master Children's Yoga and Mindfulness Practitioner (to be certified soon) Women's Studies BA Hons - Lancaster University, UK Spiritual Wake Up Call - Intuitive Session Via Skype
£95.00
Looking for intense spiritual guidance that will help bring you back into happiness and power? Got some questions or goals that have been burning in your heart for too long, and now you require clarity, guidance and brilliant answers? My tarot and meditation sessions, by phone or Skype, allow us to really get to the heart of your current situation. They guide you right onto the path you seek, and that seeks you. They create sanity in the storm of feeling, thinking and confusion. During your session we get to the deep, divine and dirty details. ​My clients have moved on with their lives in empowering ways as a result of a session with me. We can address whatever you need, be that an addiction, a broken heart, a career change, a relationship worry, or a general feeling of uncertainty, fear or anxiety. I promise that you will leave our session feeling empowered and reborn into your own personal power! I use a mix of deep healing meditation, tarot and oracle cards to get us to the heart of your situation. It is so important for me to connect with my clients, and phone / Skype, allows for that. If you love my books, my online free offerings, and my previous tarot work, this is for you. Let's connect and put your world to rights! Due to parenting and book writing, I offer only a few sessions week. I work to GMT timelines, so please only book if you can be available 9 - 2 GMT London, UK time. ​Each session lasts an hour. How do I sign up? Purchase the session online below and I will be in contact within 24 hours to arrange our appointment, and to discuss your intent so that I can craft the perfect session for you. ​ "Alice has been my go-to woman for tarot readings for years now, because her truth, knowledge + wisdom is the REAL DEAL." Lisa Lister, The Sassy She More about me... Acclaimed Spiritual Author and Artist 25 Years Practice and study of Tarot, Meditation and Healing Certificate in Hypnotherapy, NLP and Shamanic Practice - Talking Cures Leicestershire. Reiki Master Seichem Reiki Master Children's Yoga and Mindfulness Practitioner (to be certified soon) Women's Studies BA Hons - Lancaster University, UK The one card reading. Your chance to ask that one burning question! (Emailed PDF reading)
£35.00
I know so many of my clients just want that one question answering. Something preying upon their minds, and it won't settle. Just that one thing... It might be about love, health, or career, or even something as big as life purpose. This is your chance to ask that one question, and have it answered by me, a professional reader and acclaimed spiritual lifestyle author. And when I answer it, I will be as thorough and complete as required and with what the cards give me. I will give you your truth, answering with a combination of tarot, oracle and my own well honed intuition. It is my intention to bring you peace so that you may find powerful ways forward, past the question and onto living with empowered joy... You may ask about anything, love life, health, career, family, or any specific question. Please provide your question in the 'note to seller' when you check out. Also provide a valid email address so I can send your reading direct to you. As a spiritual tarot reader, deck creator and author my heart sings when you learn to read the cards for yourself. So upon purchasing your one card reading, I highly recommend you buy a copy of Dirty & Divine, and learn to read the cards for yourself! My previous clients say this... More about me... Acclaimed Spiritual Author and Artist 25 Years Practice and study of Tarot, Meditation and Healing Certificate in Hypnotherapy, NLP and Shamanic Practice - Talking Cures Leicestershire. Reiki Master Seichem Reiki Master Children's Yoga and Mindfulness Practitioner (to be certified soon) Women's Studies BA Hons - Lancaster University, UK The Cosmic Mother Tarot Deck
£35.00 - £48.00
​A beautiful fun deck of Tarot Cards inspired by the feminine divine, designed and painted by myself spiritual author and artist Alice Grist. I am so excited to birth these cards into the world. These cards are painted by me using watercolour and acrylic paints. I had much helps and inspiration form my then 4 year old daughter, Ivy Belle, who designed the beautiful back cover, and a couple of the cards too! These cards were produced in the aftermath of having written my popular book, Dirty and Divine. I was all worded out, four books later and ready for a change... I felt pulled to colour and paint and drawing. The cards started as a bit of fun. Something that my daughter and I could focus on together. In the beginning I had no intention of publishing them... But then they started to take shape, and they brought a lot to my life. So I decided to get them designed up and printed out professionally, so that they may find another life with you! I cant wait to share them with you! Cosmic Mother cards are designed to connect you to the innocence, fun and folly of the inner child. They make tarot simple, and accessible. I recommend them to everyone who wants to explore tarot from within their own world, using their life as expert and experience. Order yours today to start the Cosmic Mother Journey! Price includes postage and packaging. Please provide a valid email address in 'note to seller' for this reading to be sent to.  Some of my passions, art, writing, drama, reading, spirituality.... What have you traded your passion in for? Ah right, I know... Money yes? Once upon a time we had a passion. And it is really the very few who don't drop that as soon as adult life takes hold. Not because we don't care, but because our culture actively requests us to make money our passion. Not because we really care about money, but because money becomes essential to our survival when everything costs something. So passion gets shelved for the weekend, for retirement, for that time when we have some time... Invariably, for most people, it is forgotten about. To the point that when asked to recall our passion, we actually don't know what it is... Think back to your childhood and what you loved doing and/or the thing you really deeply cared about. There you go, that's it. Remember it now... Of course, passion is hard work. We have to create time, space and the will to pursue it. And, the gifts it gives us are often invisible. We don't know what to do with, or how to justify such invisible blessings. When we indulge passion, it may do nothing but make us feel better. And feeling better does not pay the bills... I know this too well. I picked up my passion for spirituality and writing ten years ago. And whilst I have enjoyed some successes, they are not the same success that a material based world would have me aiming for. And yet... I keep on going. Because life is too short not to. Maybe I will never find acclaim, or money or fame for my passion. But my passion is not invisible. It helps me. It exhausts me sometimes yes. And probably once a month :) I feel like quitting. But once you pick up a passion it is hard to put down. It is like nutrition for the soul. The good it does, is undeniable. The problem lies not in the passion, but in what society expects of it, and us. We are expected to make our passion turn a profit, otherwise it is worthless. Is your passion worthless? And who are you allowing to define worth for you? Share your thoughts on your passion in the comments below? Are you following yours? Are you risking a few hours a week for it? And if not, why the heck not? Let's talk... Read More Cosmic Mother... All  When I work with clients one of my favourite tools is deep spiritual meditation. Each one I create is unique. I use the cards to intuit my way forward. When I channel a meditation I find myself so blissed out, rocking to a vibe that seems to come through me and I am as empowered as the listener. I recorded a meditation today, just for you, and it's a powerful one. If you are ready to move forward in your life, to connect to something more, to get to know your path, to overcome difficulties, this meditation is one for you! It was quite exhaustive in all that it touches upon. I guarantee that after you have listened, you will be ready for a new perspective, the next level, and to understand and create more blessings in your life! Seriously, it is that good! And it is totally free, no catches, no need to sign up for anything. This is a gift. Simply download and listen... All I ask is that if you enjoy this meditation please do share it on your social media, or with friends who are in need of a healing, empowering boost! Thank you, Alice x 
Read and WatcH More... All  My writing is a process much akin to therapy. And beyond that, I hope it touches the lives of others similarly affected. Here is a piece I wrote a while back, just before my husband got properly sober. I hope if you find yourself in the co-dependent trenches, it helps... With love, Alice I am the other half of an addicted person. I finally confronted the fact that this is real. It isn’t just a bad weekend. It isn’t just a bit of a habit. It is a dependency, one that I played into for many years. One that I now wish to escape, and yet find myself mired beside. For better or for worse. There are even more times I have utterly dismissed it, even to myself. There are times I have raised a glass, with him, to his health, to our happiness, and then regretted it as one glass becomes two, and little did I know he had a few before in secret anyway. I am a spiritual person. I believe all things come about with purpose. When I strode out onto the very personal tarot journey detailed within my latest book, Dirty and Divine, I did not expect one of the key themes of that book to be addiction. I dreamed of adventures with my daughters, creative journeys indulged, meaningful meditation, and perhaps a little magic. But instead I got addiction, arguments, finally a confession, and now a slow lurch toward recovery. So my path opens wide ahead of me. The sacred journey I am treading right now, in part, is the recovery of an addicted person. Albeit, not my vice, but his. What I have discovered along this path is that there is very, very little support for the other half of an addict. So this article will go, I hope, some way to remedy that. So this is for you, my dear and loving, partner/friend/parent/relation of an addicted person. How do you cope, soulfully, lovingly and spiritually, to ensure your well-being is not depleted by the actions and addictions of a person who is paramount in your life? My brutal truth is this: my first desire, upon encountering this situation again (and it does tend to become cyclical — every so often an addict will pipe up that they have a problem, but soon it is hidden and fervently discounted) is to cut my losses and run away. But the problem here is that he is not just a walking addiction. He is a beloved person too. There is so much more than just an addict within him. I want to help. I want to heal. So I take my spirit and I walk it around the house. I indulge it in the arms of my little kids. I fervently pretend that all is well, because as it happens, I find that I am quite happy. I’m lucky like that. I find contentedness comes pretty easy. I know myself. I have my faith. I adore my children. My glass is always half-full, with water, or coffee, and only occasionally with wine. So I’m reaching out, to others, people like me who have an addicted partner or loved one. I want you to know that you are not alone. That you are not to blame, and that you too can find joy in and of your own existence. Because it is all too easy to get lost in the nonsense, the black hole of illogic that the addict makes seem so very logical. If you are dealing with the addiction of a loved one, then here are some ideas for supporting you, to help you feel less alone, and to help you cope: Be in the moment. If you are not around your addict, release and relinquish them and enjoy your life. Spurn their dark cloud in favor of your rainbow. Be with those you love. Have your own secret life of happiness. Find comedy and laughter in everything. Their addiction is not you, nor is it ever caused by you. Find your self, first and foremost, even if it is just making time in your own mind to be with you and figure out how you feel. Have some faith. Again, make the faith be in you. Listen to your intuition. Go with your heart. Try not to be a fool to it. I have been a fool hundreds of times over. I have believed declarations of abstinence, even when I have found direct evidence of otherwise. Nowadays I just choose to believe in me instead, and to know that he, for now, is an addict. End of discussion. Get out into nature. Nature has a rhythm that prevents addiction. It flows beautifully. One thing is only ever dependent on another in the most astonishing and healthy ways. Be like nature. Reject those things that try to pull you away from that which feels natural to you. Make notes. Addiction can be confusing. Keep your own head straight by keeping a journal. This will help you figure out moods, patterns, and inevitably a record that may help you make objective decisions if that time comes. Talk to someone. Maybe a friend. Maybe a parent. Yes, they might judge. Maybe they should. Maybe you should. Get some new perspectives. Check in on how you might be enabling the behavior, and then alter yourself. Don’t try to change them (Mission Impossible). But change yourself. Stop pleading with them to be different, and instead, plough that same energy inward. Ask yourself to be different. See where that leads you. Leave your addict to his or her own devices. You are not their parent, and even if you are their parent, you cannot parent an addiction. It has its ways. If you create something for them to fight against, then by golly, will they fight, and the addiction will get stronger, and you, my dear, will get weaker. So don’t fight, go sing, dance, garden, bake, do a rumba instead. If you have spirituality about you, then dig into it. Crack open a pack of tarot or guidance cards. Go to church. Pray by the sea. Manifest peace. Visit a temple. Be with like-minded souls. Do the Yoga. Meditate. Know that you are profoundly important. Ask to be guided. Ask for a sign. Follow what is offered. Here are some thoughts on recovery: When your addict fails or falters. Which they will. More than once. It is not your fault. It is part of the process. Don’t take it personally. It may not feel like a step in the right direction, but it is. It is evidence that they can shift, even if only in small increments. Recovery is no walk in the park. Nor does it happen quickly. If you have committed to the long game, know that some days will feel wonderful. Other days will be like building a new human from scratch. Be patient. And realistic. One-week-sober does not sobriety make. Keep your expectations flexible. Abstention leaves a hole. You are happy that they are sober. They are miserable because they simply don’t know how to exist anymore. Expect issues, emotions and difficulties to pop up as they seek to be whole without their crutch. Handholding, listening and hugs. That’s about all you need to give. Advice and pep talks are all well and good, but it’s not your job to become their guru. Just listen. Be there. Hug/hold as appropriate. Then let yourself off the hook and return to your happy place. Trust that love is enough. And if your love is not enough for them, then make it absolutely enough for you and for the other people and pets and hobbies in your life. Turn it inward, pull it forward, keep a little for yourself. Love is flexible like that. Use it and apply it where it is most needed and appreciated. Read more from Cosmic MotHer... All  Self care, self care, self care. Me time, me time, me time. It's a current spiritual and welfare trend. But is it hitting the spot? Yeah, we know it's all really important. We gotta take care of ourselves, just like on the plane. Put your own life mask first. (So that then you can save your kids / partner / bloke next to you who can't figure the facial straps). Yeah, yeah yeah... But is it self care, if inevitably, it is for someone else benefit? Look after you so you can be strong for your partner. Look after you so you don't yell at your kids. Look after you so you can have a happy family life. Look after you so you don't go ape shit crazy at XXXX who has been pushing your buttons and you are already to blow. I've been looking after everyone for a long time. And my 'self care' has been very much based on the premise that I need to keep myself together because I am lynchpin of all that is. My husband had a heart attack, we don't have a great deal of childcare options, I've been numero uno. My self care has been wrapped around keeping myself sane and minimally healthy so that I can carry the weight of family life. Do you feel me? Is your self care really for the benefit and wellbeing of everybody else? And if it is, how do you move past the 'minimal' and onto something a bit more luxurious, a bit more meaningful? Well first, you must recognise that your welfare goes beyond being basically rested and zen. You have so many needs; creative, etheric, desirous, passion, craving, wants. And all of those descriptive words run the gamut of body, mind and soul. You are a lot to fill. And if your filling is focused on fuel and not a full service. Your engine is likely to fall out. Apologies for the slightly rubbish car metaphor - it just happened. Sometimes we have to force another level of self care. The image at the top looks really worthy. But it is actually a result of forced self care. I'm always worried about everyone else's diet, I'm feeding my family all the veggies, and my body, my health is considered last. I think that I'm functioning and therefore I'm okay, but am I? Don't we deserve more than just functioning? I need more. So the wholesome and worthy smoothie is part of a regimen of enforced and non-negotiable self care. I don't want to do it, it's an extra chore, but it's a valuable exercise in putting myself actually first, and for noone else's benefit. Because I want to live longer, I want to fight disease, I want to be healthy and fulfilled on a new level. I want to give to myself, even if that means a forceable smoothie every morning - it's a start right? What can you do today, that is that little bit extra self care, that is just for you, not for your family or the wellbeing of your partner / parents / colleagues? What is that one extra step in a self care regimen that you aren't taking that you should? Set an intent to do it in the comments below... NOW do it. And the rest will follow. Put yourself really and truly first, and let the self care flood from that point onward...
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I am coffee and incense. As I head towards 40, the mist of perfume and wine has dropped away. My fuel and scent has embedded itself and I am coffee sense and incense scented. I remember my first jug of proper coffee being a revelation. I must have been 15 or 16 because I was writing an essay on my mum's old computer, in the days when a handwritten essay would also have been perfectly acceptable. I was overtaken. A fast, speedy, gets stuff done and feel alive like a rocket ship revelation. I had a few 'tea' years. But coffee, once loved, never leaves. And the smell of my youth, the perfume, Tribe, CK one, Charlie, moving on to more mature and expensive flavours only ever bought for me by my husband (I don't buy perfume, I just can't spend that amount on an invisible pleasure that is ostensibly for others). Has drifted away onto another girl's neck. Leaving behind a scent of burnt herbs, rolling amber and heady, glorious spices. I do love my incense. When I burn it I feel a sense of peace and inner wellbeing flood me, even when all else is chaos! These two things I seem to have committed to. Daily. They have become a part of my ether. I am coffee and incense. What are you? Choose two scents, flavours, tastes, feelings... Let me know in the comments below and please do feel free to illustrate why. Consider this a prompt to think, write and create about something other than what might be capturing your attention. An exercise in lateral creative healing! Read and Watch More... All Something you might not know about me. I adore curry. I would have it for every meal I think... Nice and hot too. Or creamy... Or chocked full of Coriander. I have no favourite. But the flavours, oh my, I've enjoyed my fair share. I used to live adjacent to the 'Golden Mile' in Leicester, which houses the UK's finest Indian and Pakistani restaurants, cafes and groceries, many of which are naturally vegan or veggie. I miss those days. Oh my I do! I remember my first experience of a spiced dish. There was a wonderful Pakistani family living two doors down from my Dad. We played with the kids all day long, in and out on each other's houses and all up and down the street with my pal Samina. Back in the freerange 1980's. One time The mum signalled for me to try some of their food, she was an epic, beautiful, strong woman, who didn't yet speak English. I was nervous as it looked so different from The usual British fare. I took one bite and my life changed forever. I remember her looking so amused and pleased and feeding me plate after plate and me just sucking the stuff up. After posting all this on Instagram, and then being shy of the right ingredients, I created my own Mushroom curry. The specifications of which had to be 1) delicious 2) vegan 3) good for the heart. It was really quite something! So please do copy my random and wholly invented curry recipe and let me know how it goes! PS I don't do measurements, I just chuck stuff in, so please be warned this is haphazard, creative cooking at it's very best. Alice's Haphazard Mushroom Curry... Rapeseed oil or Coconut oil - a good couple of big glugs or spoonfuls and start warming. Finely chopped onions - the more the merrier! 2 packs of button mushrooms (any other veg or meat you see fit) Turmeric - a lot - it fights cancer cells don't you know! Garlic 5/6 cloves or a big squeeze from a squeeze tube Ginger big squeeze from a squeeze tube Garam Masala - couple of dessertspoons Curry Powder Chilli powder / flakes / chopped chillies - as much as you can handle. Cook all above together,stirring often, till onions and mushrooms are softer and spices all mixed. Can of chopped tomatoes Peanut butter - nutty if you like it - big spoonful. Almond butter - big spoonful. (You could also add coconut cream at this stage, which I didn't, but would supplement the nut butter if you are allergic, or just go mad and put it in as well as. YOLO) Sugar (I know random) but helps address any bitterness if you put in too much turmeric! Couple of teaspoons. Spinach - wilt a whole bunch in to it... Kale would do great too! But add Kale in sooner. Fresh coriander - love the stuff, put lots in, stir it up and serve! If you make and love this recipe, let me know in the comments below! I have never posted one before. And my cooking is often as crazy as this, but 90% of the time I'm very happy with it! I have a tonne of recipe books, but rarely use them. Mainly just for inspiration, and then I cobble together what they teach me, with what I have access to! Comment below or share if you love curry!
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Cosmic MotherI am Alice Grist, author, artist, blogger and above all, one Cosmic Mother. Here I share my spirited, creative and nature focused family lifestyle dramas, magic, ideas and inventions. Welcome to my dirty and divine life! 
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