Spiritual readings should be sacred time. Time where you are able to reflect on your current circumstances, and from this place, see a powerful and potent way forward. Readings, if they do anything, dare you to get bigger, and be more YOU! Following the popularity of my first blog post on this subject, here is some more information for those of you trying to recover from a damaging 'spiritual reading'. Sadly this isn't always the case, and some readers drop painful words like stones our way, often without any kind of solution focused assistance. They present prediction like fact and in turn this creates confusion concerning free will and a feeling of disconnection with our inner compass and intuition. A power imbalance is created when someone claims to know your truth and invests that truth with 'guru' like all-seeing and all-knowing. This can leave you feeling sick, stressed and full of shame. You may feel like you need to live up to the expectation your 'reader' has dumped on you, and guilt when that doesn't not align with what you really want to do. This kind of reading is sadly fairly common and as this arena of work is unregulated any person can claim an ability, give you a terrible reading, and then leave you feeling lost and torn. Let me affirm this with you. You know your truth and a decent, caring, solution focused reading will reflect this and hand you back your crown. Any reading that leaves you feeling low, or full of shame, is not, I repeat not, something to hang your heart on. A recent client I had, who connected with me through my previous blog about BAD READINGS, has made me think even more deeply about this... When you have suffered from a bad reading with a psychic or tarot reader, not only might you feel afraid for your future, or concerned about the state of your relationships / work etc, but, it's also very common to feel a sense of guilt and shame. This arises because you feel you have been given a prescription about your life that firstly, is judgemental, negative and it makes you feel as if you have somehow messed up. A bad reading casts doubt on all your decision making, all the things you chose to do in your life suddenly feel scrutinised and dirty. It is perfectly reasonable that a bad reading would send you spiralling into a dark night of the soul. I have seen this with clients many times, and I promise you, it need not be this way. I firmly believe that everything you did, was what brought you to the moment. There is no 'good' or 'bad', generally, most of my clients are a composite of hope, joy, innocence and doing the best they can with their current understandings and skills. Wherever you life currently takes you, what matters is that you focus on you and keep striving towards your hopes. Nothing you did in the past, or that lead to this moment, deserves the cruel eyes of a judgemental or bossy reader upon them. You know you, and you know what you are capable of believe it. The other area of guilt may arise when a reader tells you what to do based on some 'spiritual' insight. Who is to say what this person's life experience or worldview is... Very likely if it feels at odds to your own, then trying to turn yourself inside out to abide by what they say is going to be awkward and have you questioning everything you know and feel. If this is the case, remember this, we are all spiritual, we all have intuition and inner knowing. If somebody has told you what to do, and it does not feel good, reference your own inner knowing and abide by your heart. Readings allow for transformation, but that change is natural, innate and inevitable. Life pushes you towards change every single day. A bad psychic reading will have you feeling like you have to turn mental and emotional gymnastics to make life fit. If you find yourself trying to accomplish a goal set by a 'reader' ask yourself if this feels right, if it feels natural. or if, perhaps, you know differently. Because honest you do, that is why you are hear reading this... You know yourself best. Always have and always will. No 'psychic or spiritual' reader has the right to admonish you for past choices nor do they know what is best for you for the future. A decent reading will have you reflecting and digging at your truth, and from here empowering you to jump into the choices and decisions that feel like magic and power. Read more about 'bad readings'. Red flags -Twin Flames. The concept of Twin Flames tends to justify abusive relationships and keep people holding on to unhealthy or toxic connections that may have arisen out of unhealed trauma. -You feel forced to make a choice or a decision about your life. -You are told something that doesn't accord with your own intuition. -You are encouraged to end something job / relationship / friendship. - You are not given hope. - The reader asks a lot of questions and shifts their reading accordingly. - The reading does not reflect your current reality, or you have to find 'crumbs' within what they say to make it fit. - The reading states what other people in your life are doing / thinking. - The reading feels like a dead end and you have no power left to change anything. Green Flags - The reader explains their work and capabilities and stresses the importance of your own power, intuition and free will. - The reading reflects accurately your current circumstances and feelings. - The reading suggests possible courses of action, based upon current ideas and opportunities. - The reading is solution and hope focused. - You begin to understand the patterns and cycles of life and make some sense out of the darker situations that have happened. - Healing and growth focused with a recognition that these things take time. - The reading focuses on you (and not the actions or behaviours of other people). - You come away prepared and enabled to enact meaningful change. - The reading suggests other support mechanisms such as doctor / therapist / support group and does not overstep their boundaries. If you've had a bad reading and need more support please visit my previous article here... If you are ready, my tarot readings will support and empower you. 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More often than I care to think about a client comes to me in desperation with this cry for help. 'I've had a bad reading, what do I do?' As a tarot reader and tarot author of 25 years I despair at how many people seem to be duped by psychic / tarot / magic peddling fortune tellers who undertake readings that leave folks feeling helpless and scared. Here I am going to break down what a 'bad reading is' and what you can do right now to feel better. What is a bad reading? A bad reading is: - one that leaves you questioning your life choices. - one that has you feeling as if you have no power over your life and everything is going to go wrong. - one that predicts doom and gloom and leaves you scared for the future. -one that predicts anything at all and makes you feel as if your life is set in stone. - one that is contradictory and changes as you share information. - one that leaves you uneasy and with a bad taste in your mouth, even if it isn't clear why. - one that has you reach out to other people for advice or to help prove the original reading wrong. - one where you are instructed what to do. I have had a number of bad readings over the years. And from that perspective, I can assure you that nothing anyone says or predicts for you is likely to come true. Not at all. Please, in the first instance, disregard anything you have been told that makes you feel bad about your life or yourself. What I have discovered from my own work as an international tarot reader and tarot expert, is that free will is the most wonderful thing in the world. And you have it. In buckets. You can change and shift your life on a whim. You can manifest, spiritually and with great power. You too can predict your own life events, and tune into your intuition far better than any 'reader' ever could. Nothing is set in stone. Nobody knows your life better than you. You are, always, the wisdom and authority you need. I understand it though, having a bad reading can set you upside down and inside out (I have been in this situation several times and as yet those bad predictions have not come true). Still, it is painful to place your life in someone's spiritual hands and have difficult, scary prophesies made. When you do this you effectively hand over all your power, and if the reader is unscrupulous, you can lose more than just the money you paid. This is a very real problem, and one that I am keep to set straight. And no, I'm not going to try to sell you my readings as antidote to your bad one. What I will tell you is this, and I'll say it over and over. You are your own spiritual authority. You always have been. If a psychic / tarot / spiritual reading feels wrong, it is because it is wrong. It is your own power filled intuition that is telling you that. So listen to yourself. If you find yourself on this page. It is because your inner guide led you here. If a reading is bad in your mind, it is because it was bad in real life. Here is your first lesson. Trust yourself more than you trust some shabby reading that broke your heart. Disregard what you were told now and know that none of it need come true. So what does a good reading look and feel like? - a good reading makes no solid predictions but helps you see the power you have in your life. - a good reading addresses the chaos and difficult times, but helps you find a way through them. - a good reading feels like empowerment and enlightenment - a good reading leads you straight back to your life purpose, your heart your emotions - a good reading aligns you with your strengths - a good reading has you feeling like superwoman, ready to take on your circumstances, plans and life! The best person to read for you, is you. This is why I wrote my book The Book of Tarot (published July 2020) so that you can start to learn the tools of divination, tarot, spirituality and intuition for yourself. For there is no better place for spiritual guidance than in your hands, heart and mind. If you are interested in spirituality, in the possibility of the mystical, of the divine at work in your own life, then there are ways to capture your own magic that do not involve anybody but you. This can be a life changing trip. Whether you choose to explore your own psychic power, or simply start to meditate and open your mind to spiritual ideas, the power you are looking for, lays with you. I offer the following tools to help you connect with your own inner spiritual guide: Check out The Book of Tarot - preorder now - to help connect you with all that lays within. Come join my Cosmic Sisterhood Circle, a magical place to share and validate your spiritual experiences. We meditate, talk tarot and find our personal power together. Three day free trial available now... Come join us. Come follow me at the links below for lots of free and inspiring spiritual guidance that will leave you feeling fully uplifted! Please feel free to share this article with folks suffering a bad or upsetting reading. Copyright Alice Grist May 2020
Just to let you know that I have expanded my tarot repertoire and am now conducting prebookable tarot consultations by phone for UK clients. It is a whole different experience than my written reports and I love connecting with you, and allowing you the opportunity to ask questions and share your life with me in this format. I am currently offering 30 min and 50 min sessions, available in the day time on most days - no waiting list at present! Though for most people the 30 minutes will get to grips with whatever situation or question is in your heart! And the readings are currently on sale too! Book now before I close up for the Christmas period. I am so excited to speak with you! BOOK YOUR CALL NOW It's December, and I am really pleased to introduce my free monthly readings, alongside the usual weekly ones. So let's see what December 2018 has in store... December 2018 - The Devil and The Ace of Cups What a year, what a year... And it's not over yet. December is a month of consolidation. Where all that you have learned and lived through is bedded in. The card, The Devil, is a stark warning against overwhelm, temptation and addiction. And of course it's the season to be jolly. But what is jolly? Is it a big old drunken mess? Is it overindulgence in spite of knowing better? Is jolly, really still jolly when it wakes up next to your married boss? Okay those are some extreme examples... But The Devil is giving us a heads up to remind us of our weaknesses, so that we may stay well alert for them, without being blinded by the sparkling lights and beautiful temptations. If you want to make the most of all 2018 has taught you, self control, and awareness are called for. Don't follow the herd to oblivion... On the other side of this, and to balance things out, we have the Ace of Cups. Which suggests that if we stay in our personal awareness, we are going to be offered a new beginning. If we overcome the inner darkness, we get sparkly new loveliness. I'm not talking about gifts under a tree, but self love, transformation and all kinds of inner fulfilment. So allow your burrterfly to expand, and as she does so, trust the new and intriguing places and thoughts that arise. By putting our devil firmly in the past, we get fresh green roots. Let your roots feel their way... The week ahead - Mon 3rd Dec... The Chariot Start the week, the month off, by seeing how far you have come. The past year has tested the life out of you. It has not been easy. But you made it through, and your heart is bigger as a result. Which means that maybe you feel extra emotional or sensitive, this is not a failure, this is feeling. And you need that feeling right now so that you might grow bigger and better. Let this week see all the tears flow, and as they do, the worry will subside. You are guided, you are loved, and you have entirely survived the difficulties. Take stock, say a prayer of thanks, move forward with your heart on your sleeve. If you enjoy these, please do share on your social media! I have now released my 2019 year ahead readings - book now to get yours and plan your very personal year ahead! 2019 here we come! With love, Alice x Signed Copy of Dirty and Divine - UK ONLY
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Purchase direct form the author and receive a signed copy AND a personal note in the front of the book about which card is your current 'power card'. This is for UK customers only. Customers living in other countries will be able to order this book from large retailers or have it ordered into your local book shop! This year has had me questioning everything. It's been a difficult space and I've experienced everything from elation to existential worries, from clarity to severe anxiety. It's been tough. I was ready to put all the things I love to the side. One of those things being tarot. Yet the signs and symbols have not let this happen. I've had a steady flow of reminders that 'tarot is my thing's. Culminating in my eldest presenting this to me last night. She had worked on it in secret whilst I put her sister to bed. It really moved me. Not least because I had no idea she could do bubble writing! But also beacuse the sentiment, is not one I have ever expressed to her. Not in those words. But coming from her, it suddenly makes a sweet kinda sense. Tarot is my thing.
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Alice GristI am Alice Grist, author, artist, cosmic mother and tarot expert. Here you will find my spiritual thoughts and regular free Tarot guidance. |